We just finished the movie “Fences”. There is so much of my father in Denzel’s character, “Troy”. It’s incredible, really. It’s like I was watching my Dad on the big screen – I was on the edge of my seat the entire movie. I want our loved ones to know something so very important, especially considering the ending of the movie.
My Father can be incredibly hard on those he loves. Incredibly hard – Viscous and cutting at times. He’s hard on me and everyone in our family – I know this more than anyone else. But, there is something important in that hardness that a lot of people don’t really understand and rightfully, so. My Dad can be absolutely terrifying.
My Dad is difficult and terrifying because he loves you. He’s hard on you because he cares and that is something incredibly special – That’s not something you find everyday. If he didn’t love you, he would expend the herculean effort on you, all of you (And us), that he does.
He wants those he loves to be absolutely everything he isn’t and at the same time, absolutely everything he is.
My father will never demand perfection from you, or anyone; He expects it and he will ensure you produce it, for yourself. It may not seem like that, to our loved ones.
If I wanted to prove to him that the Moon was made of cheese he would encourage and support me in that endeavor with everything he has – No matter his personal opinions on the matter. And if I failed to prove it to myself (And therefore him), he would tear my Lilly ass apart and that’s what makes him great.
Please never think there isn’t a reason my Dad is as rough and as demanding as he is. There is a reason and it has nothing to do with him.
One thing my Dad says that I really love is “You can have all the potentional in the world but that doesn’t fucking matter unless you act with incredible sacrifice and effort – To become anything less than your true self, is the greatest tragedy that can befall you”. <3 <3 <3